Full Disclosure – I used to hate the term 'Manifesting'

Then how did I end up publishing a manifesting journal? Good Question……

So I finally published my first Cosmos & Kismet Journal- 7 Minute Manifesting Journal. It’s designed to be a really simple and straightforward way to help you create the energy around bringing in what you want to your life. Over the last 10 years I have been practising manifesting, but I have been doing it almost stealth like – you could say I’m somewhat of a secret manifester! Despite my initial annoyance (more of a despise if I’m being completely honest!) with the term manifesting because of the connotations it drags up around individuals drinking margaritas on a beach in Marbella whilst the bank account is filling up seemingly miraculously, I eventually got to grips with the term – largely because I couldn’t find a better one for what I was doing. For me now though, manifesting feels actually more about living mindfully and consciously and less about the end goal which ties in perfectly with the holistic approach I’m so passionate about. This is why manifesting has actually become one of my favourite subjects! If you’re still sceptical, read on….

So what does it mean to manifest? The Oxford dictionary states ‘show (a quality or feeling) by ones acts or appearance: demonstrate.’ The Cambridge dictionary states, ‘to show something clearly, through signs and actions.’ Whichever you prefer I think there is a clear link to doing and action. Manifesting then can’t simply be a case of adding it to the vision board and then crossing our fingers in the hope that it comes true. As much as I’m sure we would all love that to be the case!

Or would we? Is there not something about the action that is as important as the goal? Do we not appreciate things that little bit more if we know we have put some effort in along the way? Is this not how we create a meaning and attachment to the thing we want? Or does the mere effort carry too much value and meaning to fully enjoy the goal? Have you ever watched grand designs and saw the individual broken by the end and wondering if its all worth it and that being so focused on the end result has meant they lost themselves so much, they lost relationships and self-worth because of the sheer desperation to get to the end. At the same time I’ve watched others persevere with joy in their eyes even despite the blood, sweat and tears. The journey has been as much a part of the goal as the end home they built. They relish in their build and the self-worth swells from every part of their being. Is this how we should be viewing our life? I don’t have an answer per say although I know for me personally, I need a bit of both. I need that end goal in mind to give me the motivation and drive to continue to take the action. Without the goal or vision, I find it very hard to stay consistent and sometimes keep going at all depending on the task. I do however also work much better if I actually enjoy the here and now. Without that awareness of the present, it kind of feels too far away and I need something that is more of a short term gratification as I want to enjoy the journey and my life as its happening now.

I think the key for me to bring that together is also about letting go of the outcome a little. This may sound a little counterproductive – I get asked how can you have a goal but not focus on the goal? Let me try to explain….imagine you wanted a successful career and there’s a promotion in your current company coming up and so that is going to bring you closer to that goal. Great, go for it. But then you see another job advertised which is in a completely different sector but even the sight of it lights you up inside. But it feels unrealistic. Or it might even be the same pay as you’re on now without the promotion? Do you go for it or stay on track because of the goal? As your coach I would say let’s dig into this ‘goal’ a little deeper – what does success look like to you? Does it stay true to this sector? If so, why do you like the look of the other one so much – what feels different? And so on and so forth. Career paths are a really good example as they are very rarely linear and often, we end up where we are because we’ve taken the next step not really knowing what will happen but more because either an opportunity presented itself and it seemed to work for us at that time. Its essentially the same with manifesting anything. Sometimes you just need to feel your way through and keep taking what feels like the next right thing. The next thing that feels good and lights you up. Sometimes we come across challenges, but they can teach us things and become part of our journey, or we can let them stop us from making any further steps. The choice is ours. If we make choices that feel like they are the right ones (even if that takes us out of our comfort zones) then we’re more likely to be enjoying the journey on the way.

I recently came across the term ‘what if we never showed up to our own lives’ and it really stuck. I’m not entirely sure why but I think about certain people I have met through my life, characters I’ve read about and myself. I wonder how many people get to the end of their life and wish they’d lived it differently. Wished they’d been braver, cared less what people thought, wore the bikini, told someone how they really felt. Taken the actions. How sad to look back with missed wishes.  I’m trying hard to do the things I want to do, despite the fear that threatens to hold me back. Despite the juggles I constantly have to manage on a daily basis and despite the challenges that are thrown my way on what feels a little too regularly at times. I am fully leaning into who I am and what I feel I am here to do, and do the next thing that feels right. I’m learning to love (well sometimes) the lessons I get from the challenges, the obstacles becoming opportunities and although often f*(£!^g annoying at times, I’m learning to go with the flow and ride through the storms or wait until they pass, depending on which feels best at the time.

I have long term goals and wants, and I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with that. I think often we grow up with thoughts around abundance and greed and that there’s a sense that the two are the same. If you are abundant, you must be greedy. If you’re not abundance you must be living a simple life, and you’re somehow a better person. I also don’t believe that’s necessarily the case. What I do feel very strongly though is that abundance is whatever you want it to be. If all you’ve ever dreamed of is living off grid or travelling around the globe in a campervan with minimal possessions and making just enough money as you go to eat and pay your way round – that might be your abundant, and that’s wonderful. Family may be your abundance – having those you care about nearby where nothing else matters. Work is merely noise to enable you to eat and live so you can keep that going as you’re happy with what it brings you – more time with your family. 

With this journal, I’m encouraging you to think really seriously about what it is you want and also be grateful for where you are right now. If we want to create the sorts of energetic shifts that I know you can, it becomes a case of needing to start to channel that type of energy. We become magnets for the things we focus on so if all you can see is what’s missing, that can create an even bigger gap and more of those things that you’re lacking. Alternatively, spending time being grateful for what you have, knowing what you want and then taking actions in the right direction – towards those goals from a place of love, acknowledgement and abundance creates the potential for a new reality if you want it.

I encourage you to think about what that looks like for you and how that feels. Spend time visualising what that looks like and lean into the possibility of that being your new reality. And if you want the Chanel bags, the yacht, the country house, and villa in Marbella – amazing! Go get it my friend! I’ll be backing you all the way.

Much love & magic,

Michelle

Oh and if you want to buy the journal, here’s the link….

https://amzn.eu/d/f3LQ6ge

pic of me on a beach - not Marbella or drinking margaritas, but still enjoying it very much!